7 Weird And Bizarre Sex Facts Around The World

You will be shocked to now that there are some weird & bizarre sex laws and facts exists around the world which will make you think what’s wrong with the world?These sex facts are so bizarre in nature that sometimes it make no sense at all. Check out the following 7 weird & bizarre sex facts around the world.






Germany’s Sex Tax
You will be shocked to know that in the German city of Bonn the authorities have installed a “sex tax” meter for 200 prostitutes working in that area. Although, the “sex tax” is merely 6 Euro but the authorities are expecting to earn additional revenue of 200,000 Euros a year. What’s more shocking that these prostitutes even get a receipt after paying the Bonn “sex tax”. Haven’t you read earlier that “sex sells like no other thing”.

Russia’s Most Fertile Lady In The World
As per a study Finnish and Russians are the least happy people with their sex lives. Still, a women in Russia gave birth to more that 69 children in her lifetime. She gave birth to 7 sets of triplets, 16 pairs of twins and 4 sets of quadruplets. She is named as the most fertile lady in the world with a world record of giving birth to 69 children.

Alabama (USA) Sex Toy Ban
In United States, Alabama has banned the sale of sex toys, or any items which can generate sexual stimulation. We all know how free thinking country like America is has numerous stores selling sex toys but the governor of Alabama thinks otherwise with his prudish decision of banning toys which can generate sexual stimulation.

Japan’s Body Sushi
Japanese body Sushi is one of the most popular thing in Japan. Body Sushi revolves around naked female models who are trained to lie still for hours. These female naked model’s bodies are used as a serving plate to serve food. They lie still while the food is eaten from the bodies. Many sushi restaurant owners have taken it to next level where they present female, sometime male models decorated or painted as per season or festive occasion. “Sushi should keep you full and delighted” that’s the primary motto.

Most Sexually Active People In The World
No points for guessing that American’s are the “most sexually active people in the world”. As per survey, average Americans have sex more than 132 times a year. The second coveted spot goes to Russian’s who have sex 122 times a year. French’s are having sex 121 times a year while Greek’s have sex 115 times a year. This bizarre study also shows China, Japan and Malaysia with the lowest sexual frequencies.

Prevent Ejaculation To Retain Sexual Energy In China
As per Taoism, one should prevent ejaculation to retain sexual energy. This sexual energy can enhance one’s life so they practice it wisely. They also believe in having many sexual partners to harness the beneficial sexual energy released by women during sex.

Japanese Annual Fertility Festival
You will be shocked to know that Japan celebrated an annual fertility festival to celebrate penis. No points for guessing Japanese people’s fascination with penis. They even went ahead to create the world record for having biggest orgy ever. In this festival more than 250 men and women had sex in a warehouse at the same time. Later, they even went ahead to release the DVD of this celebration.

I would love to know more of their weird and bizarre sex facts from around the world. Please leave us a comment and let us know.

7 Things You Didn't Know About Porn

1. Women get turned on by monkey sex

Think guys are aroused by just about anything? It's actually the other way around. Researchers from Northwestern University showed men and women videos of nude actors exercising, masturbating, or having sex. They found that men have pretty clear "targets" — straight dudes got hot looking at ladies, while gay dudes were turned on by men. It's fuzzier for chicks, though. Even if they didn't report feeling in the mood, straight women experienced physical arousal after viewing pretty much any kind of sexual stimuli — guy-on-guy porn, girl-on-girl action, and even bonobo monkeys getting frisky.

2. Utah is the perviest state

A Harvard study found that Utah had the most online porn subscriptions per every 1,000 broadband users. (The state with the lowest rate of porn subscriptions? Montana.)

3. The body part that men focus on when watching porn is the woman's — wait for it — face

You read that right: eyes and lips win out over boobs and a badonkadonk, according to an eye-tracking study from the Kinsey Institute at the University of Indiana. The researchers speculated that guys look at women's faces to gauge how turned on they are.

4. The pill affects whether you go for the money shot

More from the Kinsey Institute study: Women not on hormonal birth control (like The Pill) zoned in on people's genitals when shown a pornographic pic. But women taking The Pill were more interested in contextual elements such as the background, or what the actors are wearing. Researchers hypothesize it's because Pill-free women have a higher sex drive.

5. All — literally all — men watch it

A researcher from the University of Montreal wanted to study whether pornography has an impact on guys' sex lives. There was just one teensy problem though: To form a control group, he searched for men in their twenties who'd never consumed porn...and he couldn't find a single one.

6. Most guys get into it before puberty

The majority check out porn for the first time at age 10, according to the same University of Montreal study.

7. Presidential elections put people in the mood

Talk about dirty politics. After President Bush won the election in 2004, red states saw a jump in porn-related Internet searches. And after President Obama won in 2008, blue states went on a porn-search frenzy. Researchers from Villanova and Rutgers University believe it's because being on the winning team creates a surge of testosterone, which spikes sex drive.

10 Foods To Boost Your Sex Drive – Libido Boosting Foods

As per a study more than 35% women fail to reach an orgasm due to different reasons. Are you amongst those women how don’t like sex just because of climaxing issue? The ‘Big O’ is a dream and difficult to achieve? As per another study what you eat, what food you eat is one of the primary reason of your poor sexual life.

Everything that can be summed up as good sex depends to a great extent on your body’s blood circulation, which is made or marred by the food that you consume. Food that facilitates the proper pumping of blood in the body adds to your sexual prowess.

The following is a list of 10 foods to boost your sex drive hence enhance your libido. These sex-friendly platters will help you reach the ‘Big O’ more often.

1. Green Leafy Vegetables
Believe me or not when i say that spinach is a natural Viagra. It is proven that green leafy vegetables have their own sexual benefits. The reason is clear, green leafy veggies are rich in Vitamin E, one of the major sex hormones producing catalyst in the body. Green leafy vegetables are also rich in manganese responsible for producing female hormone estrogen. It is proven that magnesium deficiency affects woman’s fertility levels. If we talk about men, green leafy vegetables contains zinc which is vital for sperm production and libido.

2. Bananas
Rich in vitamin B, bananas are great to convert carbohydrates into energy which is good for bedroom life. Bananas also improve the body’s ability to produce sex hormones i.e. testosterone. I would suggest to have bananas 1-2 hours before the action.

3. Natural Seeds
Many natural seeds like soybeans, pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, flax-seeds or chickpeas Seeds helps in improving sexual hormones. One tablespoon of flax-seed a day can increase the testosterone levels in our body as they are highly rich in Omega 3 fatty acids. If Omega 3 fatty acid level drops in the body, it directly affects hormone levels which further lead to poor sex drive. Who can deny the benefits of pumpkin seeds which contain zine responsible for producing testosterone.

4. Olive Oil
Olive Oil is an answer to orgasm problems in women, which triggers testosterone hormone production. A lack of this hormone can lead to lack of desire and sexual pleasure and an inability to achieve an orgasm. So, be liberal with monounsaturated fats like olive oil.

5. Sea Food
If you are a non-vegetarian or love oyster & fish then sea food will help you enhance your sex drive. Fish is highly rich in Omega 3 fatty acids which helps your metabolism and keep you hale & hearty. It is also proven that these enhances dopamine hormone which lights up the brain’s pleasure system. Apart from dopamine it also includes Vitamin B responsible for fertility. On the other hand Oysters are the richest source of zinc which enhances the prostate grand thus boost testosterone production in men.

6. Dark chocolates
If you believe on studies than you will be amused to know that women eating dark chocolates daily are having sexually satisfying lives than those who don’t eat dark chocolates. There is a scientific reason behind this study. It states that Phenethylamine (a chemical present in chocolates) keeps the body relaxed and pleasurably intoxicated. Dark chocolates also help in releasing stress busting serotonin, mood boosting stuff which makes human’s desire sexual contacts. It’s time to fall in love with chocolates again and forget the weight related issues for now.

7. Add Nuts In Your Diet
Including nuts in your daily diet can do wonders for your sex drive. Add walnuts, almonds, groundnuts, pistachios etc. in your daily diet to improve your energy levels & stamina. No wonder stamina is the primary factory behind satisfying sex life.

8. Garlic
If you learn something from Arab world, then you will notice that regular use of garlic can improve your sexual prowess. Although, you have to freshen up your breath before the action.

9. Vitamin C Rich Fruits
Vitamin C rich foods are important for sexual gratifications. Human body requires vitamin C to tune the sexual organs properly. As per recent tests done in Sweden a daily dose of 500-1,000 mg of vitamin C can increase sperm quality and count. Fruits such as strawberries, kiwi or any other citrus fruits are rich in vitamin C.

10. Specific Spices
Some specific spices like red chillies, chili pepper, and ginger not only spice up your palette but also also your bedroom. Chili pepper, red chillies and ginger perk up blood circulation. So, dig into some spicy food when spicing up things between the sheets.

I would love to hear your ideas, experiences of foods known to improve sexual prowess. Please leave me a comment and let me know.

9 Sex Mistakes A Couple Make When Making Love

Many couple treat sex just like porn which eventually ruin their sex life. Couple who enjoy perfect sex life knows the secret of keeping their partner happy. But what are the major blunders which should be avoided? Learn why treating sex like porn is not a good idea. Here are the 9 Sex Mistakes A Couple Make When Making Love which eventually ruin their sex life in long term.

Not Kissing Your Partner
You may be shocked to know but 65% couple who get intimate at least 3 times a week avoid kissing their partner while having sex. Sometimes, due to awkward position which doesn’t allow them to kiss but most of the time their main goal becomes reaching climax. They think kissing will break the rhythm. In order to sustain long term sexual life & pleasure do kiss your partner while having sex.

Biting Too Early Turns The Partner Off
As per a study many women loves an aggressive sex partner but sometimes biting turn the partner off due to severe pain or discomfort. If the partner is not aroused enough say no to biting otherwise it’s a huge turn off. You can gently bite their shoulder, neck or ear during the act when both are fully excited.

Ignoring Other Parts Of Your Partner’s Body
many couple tend to ignore other parts of their partner’s body except sexualized parts. Every couple should pay attention to different parts of their partner’s body otherwise things becomes too predictable and boring. Apart from genitals you can focus on their entire body i.e. knees, wrists, back and stomach etc. which are highly erogenous zones for men as well as women. Gently caressing these areas will help excite your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring you back.

Putting Too Much Weight On Your Partner
When you put your weight on your partner you can clearly see on his/her face whether he/she is enjoying it or is it making him/her uncomfortable? It’s pretty normal to drop your weight on your partner every now and then but you have to balance your act. Do not drop your weight without noticing that if it’s chocking them or hindering their ability to breathe.

Reaching Climax Either Too Soon Or Too Late
Men need to have better control over their muscle to make sure they ejaculate at an appropriate time. Reaching climax too soon may leave your partner unsatisfied similarly, reaching climax too late might leave your partner feeling as if they’re pumping iron at the gym. To gain better control spend ample time on foreplay. If you take too long and can only ejaculate via manual stimulation, do your best to get your partner to orgasm and then they can return you the favor.

Not Informing Your Partner Before Reaching Climax
If you’re going to let go – and this applies even to women – whether during oral sex or intercourse, you need to tell your partner beforehand. Something as simple as “I’m going to let go,” will suffice. This will help your partner to balance his act of reaching climax.

Treating Sex Like Porn
Many couple break the jinx of having sex in missionary position all the time and they opt for raunchy sex moves. It will be a good idea to notice if your partner is loving the same act or not. If not just stay away with the idea or talk to your partner about it. As per study many relationship goes down just because of this particular reason.

Lying Quiet
You are not dead are you? lying quite while having sex is a big turn off. Your partner might think that you are not enjoying the act although you are enjoying but not speaking anything. A simple moan will encourage your partner to make the act a little more interesting.

Making Sex A Mechanical Act
This is the most common problem in couples having same kind of sex in years. Making sex a mechanical act just to reach the climax is a big NO. Sooner you will realize that both of you are loosing interest in sex. Innovate and create some variations is a good idea, similarly you can try different poses too. Going little slower or little faster than your normal routine can also help.

I would love to hear your experiences and mistakes you make in bed. Please leave me a comment and let me know.

Top 10 Signs Of A Cheating Man, Cheating Husband

Top 10 signs of a cheating man, cheating husband: Your man is cheating on you and you suspect it? Probably the worst you can hope for and you do not want to know for sure in case it is for real. Still, you cannot be taken for a ride and hence, you need to pick on the certain changes and hints you are observing and face him. By all means if he’s cheating, he’s lost which you should know in your inner self.

If studies are to be believed then 50-60% men cheat their wives by indulging in extra marital affairs at least once in their lifetime. Wives of these man do not understand or have clue, if they can understand how to spot a cheater then life can become easier for these women. Stop cursing yourself and learn the art of spotting a cheater. Unraveled below are top 10 signs to know if your man is cheating on you.

Distancing
He seems to be hanging out with his buddies all the time and has no time for you. Are you sure it’s his buddies all the time? Lately, he’s even been coming home late from work. From no work or running home to you, he is staying at his office but not particularly crying about it?

No longer making it work
Conversation is not easy flowing like it used to be and he seems to get too agitated if you ask him questions. It might not be you doing something wrong but his guilty conscience that may be catching up or he is finding it tough to keep two birds in hand and also handle everything else.

Lack of patience
He will snap and mind you poke him around to make him snap more or else you will not know why he is losing his temper. A number of these tips can also be because something that make totally unrelated from cheating but normally stress but it is also symptom of cheating with another birdie.

You’re intuition is bugging you
You have been picking up the hints and you’re doing your bit and more you do the more he seems to shrug off. Take it up with him. Confrontations are the only pills here and make him swallow it hard.

A sudden interest in themselves
You will notice that when a man is cheating on you or at least you think he is, he will be conscious about his looks like anyone in their initial phase of dating or making them look like a treat to capture. New fragrances, a new hairstyle, sudden grooming will more than catch your eye and do not let it go.

The cell phone nightmare
Is it more often that whenever you call his line is busy? Is his phone pinging too often, too many texts being sent and received and a sudden change to his tone or face when talking or reading the text? Do not get paranoid but grab that cell phone and ask about it. The topic is likely to be brushed away from his end.

Picking up of new behavior
There are things you could not get him to do but now he does that and more to just escape and not be held back? Is he showing off his charm more?

The money is flying
You are not likely to know where it is flying to. Is he spending it on himself as well as with his ‘buddies’? You can always check the credit card bills and the phone bills.

Intimacy withdrawal
The passion is lacking and he is not reaching for you but murmuring tired and sleeping it off. The endearments are missing and so is the everyday hug or kiss. For all you know he’s getting it somewhere else.

The computer is no longer the lonely box
This may or may not be on your ‘is he cheating’ list. But in case he is running for it at odd hours or spending too long, make sure you see if some chats or emails or social networking sites aren’t running your relationship.

Learn these things as these signs will help you spot a cheater. Please leave me a comment and let me know your views on spotting a cheating husband.

Sex & Good Chat Keeps Women Fit

Sex is healthy so is a conversation. Although,  we are not suggesting you do the two at the same time, make sure you indulge in some before and some afterwords or make time for good chat. Sex between a couple is kind of an exercise and is also recommend as the number one exercise if someone wants to lose weight.

A couple who indulges in sex frequently is high on intimacy and drive but sex alone is just sweating it out. A couple should understand the importance of pillow talk and conversations about their relationship which is equally important. The talk before sex might get interrupted or most of time may just be sex talk but does your man knows that his woman can be totally fit with a chat as well? Sex is all about exercising the body while chat is more about exercising the mind and heart. Unlike men, women like to talk and without talks they do not enjoy sex as much as they would if their partner indulges in lots of talk with them.

Mostly labeled as pillow talk, it is can play a crucial role in the couple’s lives. Moreover, woman like to be appreciated and cared for which can only be shown while holding a conversation with her. Pillow talks may not always be an option but just like the initial stages of dating, a good chat can stimulate the mind and be quite the turn on. Not to be cliché, but haven’t you observed the character of James Bond ever. A fast conversation can be a stimulant, arousing, a solid foundation and once again a huge turn on. There is something about a battle of the tongues, by which we mean metaphorically.

Be it talk or sex talk, conversations play a crucial role in a relationship unless you are having a one night stand. Sex alone can make a woman think that you do not care. A relationship is a balance between intimacy and caring. You cannot debate the topic of caring through sex. Healthy conversations had everything in the doctor’s prescription to a healthy relationship given that communication let go of many barriers and what do you know it may lead you to sharing role plays, fantasies.

Sex is initially the most sought after in a relationship. When the frequency of your sex life reduces a good chat keeps you going. Also the practical answer here is to say that sex cannot be nonstop and while you are not at it, silence cannot be maintained. A couple who does not talk is bound to get burned out over time as relationships only sexually  maintained only serve one part of the gambit. To make a relationship work, all it takes is talk.

I would love to hear your thoughts, experiences on how vital is chat for a good relationship. Please leave me a comment and let me know.

In Praise Of The Older Man – Dating Older Men

My Partner Mark is in his 60’s, he has salt and pepper hair, brown age spots freckle his hands and deep lines on his face mapping out wisdom and experience. His clothes are tailored and well cut, expensive cufflinks visible through the buttonholes of a clean crisp shirt. He has 3 children and 2 grandchildren, none of them are mine. To my mind we are a perfect match and incredibly happy, bar a small difference from most relationships – a 28 year old age gap.

People find it hard to believe I like older, nay OLD men. I was probably the only girl to online date and age lie upwards, try to date and man in their 60’s when you are 33 and people presume, quite understandably, that there is a motive behind your preference, namely cash (although admittedly, fresh out of school or near pushing up the daisies a few quid in the bank is always a bonus) I simply prefer the wisdom, manners, conversation and yes, saggy bum sex and all of the older man.

I think that both men and women improve with age, Liz Hurley 46 for example with her never ending legs and glossy mane looks infinitely better than she did circa Versace safety pin dress, Halle Berry 44 and those bloody cheekbones , even fat but gorgeous Kirstie Alley at, wait for it 60, looks as hot as fondue cheese right now, I’ll have some of her cake please. So too men, in my opinion just get juicer and more delicious as the years go by, it comes as no surprise that Take That tickets sold out within minutes, and women who should know better having left husbands in doors with the kids, were photographed, brawling, puking and crying outside gig venues in mass hysteria over the golden 5, the spritely young boy band have come of age and boy, can they still pack a stadium.

I have always fancied old men. And was saddened to see that recently my first crush, Peter Falks had popped his clogs, when other girls at school where dreaming of Brad Pitt (although now in his mid 40’s, you catching my drift girls) I was in front of the TV lusting after a glass eye and brown raincoat. Michael Heseltine (it was the hair) Clive James (the wit) and Al Pachino (explanation not needed). You could say I have never been age prejudice unless of course you were a good-looking guy in your 20’s. I dare say I’m every psychologists dream (especially those recently divorced and over 55), I have ‘father being too distant issues’, ‘mother being to submissive issues’, ‘great uncle dressing up as father Christmas issues’. None of the above I’m afraid, I just like my toys a little bit pre loved, after all why have strong bow when you can have Chateaux Neuf de Pape.

My addiction for the geriatric genre probably started seriously when I met Alex at 27, he was 59 and despite some initial trepidation, we dated and I realized, after a number of years not having lived out my age preferences to their full potential, and dating men whose idea of chivalry was going Dutch at Nando’s and a WKD in the wetherspoons next door that actually this was my buzz, Colombo had realized himself in the form of a Iranian old age pensioner living in St Johns wood. Alex proved a refreshing, and so it seems, addictive change. He introduced me to an adult world of depth and passion, we would sit for hours in his beautiful flat, without the distraction of week old dirty plates in the sink and stoned flat mates rolling in at 4am. We would drink Chablis in front of the fire, discussing life, politics, art and culture, he had opinions, experience and history. He was to boys my own age, what Sheeky’s is to Harvester, Mont Blanc to Biro and I couldn’t get enough of him. Sex too can be great with the oldies, after all they’ve done enough shagging in their lives to know how to slow it down, please a woman and locate correct buttons at correct times, and contrary to popular belief that men loose their mojo as soon as they hit 30, I’ve found that the older the guy the saucier the sex life, if you’ve never been called a naughty girl while you pour out of your beautiful new coral pink Myla underwear set, by a hot confident older men I’d recommend you try it.

Of course it’s a wild generalization to suggest all men over a certain age are cultured and sophisticated and all men under 30 live of kebabs and talk about Wayne Rooney’s dribbling technique for 8 hours a day, but from my experience be it a better listener, a more experienced lover, a worldlier head or just simply a damn sexier face, Older men come out on top. I mean who’s seen anything sexier than Scarlett Johansson foot under the table in the crotch of the smouldering Sean Penn 20 years her senior, what I’d do to be a fly on the wall the 4 hours after that photo was taken. Ditto I see no couple who sit better together than the royals of Hollywood’s themselves Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas, so 6 months ago he was 10 minutes away from the pearly gates and she’s gone a bit bonkers, but hell they were on fire at the Tony awards, mixed age relationship-ing at it’s very best.

I can’t deny that there are disadvantages. With age often comes baggage, being labelled as the new brainless arm candy by the green eyes ex wife (despite having a degree and your own business), meeting you’re boyfriends kids who turn out to be older than yourself, or the age old deterrent of seeing them meet the big man 20 years before you get your wings are all obvious potential stumbling blocks. However in an age, and at an age (after all us gals aren’t getting any younger either, thank god for fillers) when people have a past, skeletons, history and baggage one thing can be said for those well traveled , gorgeously cared for old wrinklies, it’ll be Louis Vuitton not JD sports it’s packed in and all hail to that.

Author: Katy Horwood

10 Reasons of Absent Sex Life

Its often seen that many couples stop consummating their marriage. Sex life is absent from their busy life. In the previous article Having Sex is good for health the importance of sex in married life is stated, but sometimes we tend to ignore it. So, here are few reasons given below -

- Lack Of Emotional Involvement

Many women carry an apprehension for sex and are unable to respond comfortably during the few attempts of intercourse. This may also happen due to lack of emotional involvement in relationship, especially in arranged marriage. A women sexuality is usually heart- oriented. It is best to wait a little and not rush things.

- Penetration Phobia

Irrational fear or phobia associated with penetration is often a cause of non consummation of marriage, even to educated people. This cause is a deep rooted psychological fear related to the genitals. It may also be learned fear caused by listening to myths about painful penetration during the impressionable years.

- Dyspareunia

There may be several causes of dyspareunia or pain during intercourse.The problem arises because the women pelvic muscles may be too tight, or her vagina may not be adequately lubricated. Also, her hymen may still be partially intact which may be causing pain. It is strongly recommended that couples avoid having intercourse until the cause of the pain is found, or else thing may get worse. In later stages, a physical problem may become a psychological one.

- A Tight Hymen

The hymen in a thin membrane that covers vagina. It may or may not be present at birth. In some women hymen is extra thick and tight.This make it either impossible to penetrate during intercourse. Also, it may cause sever pain and bleeding if penetration is forcibly attempted.If a gynecologist finds the hymen to be unusually tight on examination, a small surgery – hymenectomy – may be necessary before the couple attempts intercourse.

- Vaginismus

Vaginismus is an involuntary spasm of the entrance to the vagina during attempts of penetration that invariably causes pain and discomfort. The cause is a deep rooted psychological fear related to genitals. The women involuntarily tightens the muscles of her vagina, making penetration painful and impossible. A women may not be consciously aware of the root cause. No medication can help in such case. A sex therapist trained in counseling is better equipped to deal with.

- Psychogenic Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection. In Majority of cases, the cause is psychogenic, Such as stress, anxiety, guilty, anger, mood disorders, relationship difficulties and past traumatic events. The treatment depends on the cause. Sex counseling and therapy is needed for psychogenic causes.

- Organic Erectile Dysfunction

Whenever a man is unable to attain or maintain erection of penis( and this unable to consummate his marriage) due to biological causes, it is called as organic erectile dysfunction. Organic causes may include endocrine conditions such as diabetes, disorders of pituitary, thyroid or adrenal glands, diminished testosterone levels, reactions to certain medications especially hypertension medications, and many more.

- Performance Anxiety

Fear of failure or anxiety about impotence ranks first of prevalence, in all  the sexual fears that men bear. Ironically, the itself is the greatest cause of impotence and thus non-consumption of marriage. If a man is more focused on how well he is performing with a partner, rather than on enjoying the sensations in the sexual act, it may be difficult to attain or maintain an erection. This become a vicious cycle. The remedy is to learn to relax. When a man is involve din foreplay, without examining the organ, erection happens on its own. The wife’s cooperation plays a very important role in getting over such psychogenic impotence.

- Premature Ejaculation(PE)

PE is the most comon complaint against men . It is not a physical problem, but a learning disability found very commonly in newlyweds. Ejaculation early is a learned reflex response that can be effectively re- conditioned when a man and a women actively learn ejaculation control together. The squeeze technique or the stop-start technique  can benefit in this  case.

- Female Sexual Arousal Disorder ( FSAD)

Female arousal is as much as necessary as male erection for a couple to engage into intercourse. The physical causes of the same include many hormonal, and other organic causes erectile dysfunction in men. Psychological issues that contribute to FSAD are hpyscial or psychological abuse, low self esteem or distorted body image. Unrealistic expectations from the partner  and unresolved emotional and relational issues in the couple can also cause FSAD.

I would love you to leave me a comment and let me hear your opinion. If you’ve got any thoughts, comments or suggestions for things we could add, leave a comment.

6 Myths about Sexual life

Study has revealed 6 myths related to human body when it comes to their sexual life. Many of us believe that we know everything about our sexual life and in that frame of mind we believe blindly without any reason. Sometimes its wise to know everything before indulging sexualy with your partner. This recent study in US have revealed many facts which we think as true but they are not. I will try to advice as well so that we are not going for an unprotective sex thinking that periods are going on. Let me know which of the following myths you knew prior to reading this article.

Myth 1. Virgins have hymens

The presence of a hymen is a popular indicator of a woman being a virgin, and it’s absence, a sure sign of intercourse. However Fulbright debunks the myth saying that this might not be true for all women – girls are born with hymens of various sizes and openings. Some might appear to have no hymen at all. Also physical activities such as bicycling, horseback riding, gymnastics, etc. can stretch the hymen and even break it. Hence the hymen is not an indicator of “virtue”.

Myth 2: Viagra is 100 per cent effective

Popping the blue pill is not the effective path to an amorous evening. Study emphasizes that men bearing this notion needed to think again because a desire component is needed for males to become sexually aroused and attain erection. So if you are “not in the mood”, there is little that the magic pill can do.

Myth 3: Withdrawal is birth control

Study says pregnancy could occur any time unprotected intercourse was indulged in, whether  or not the male had climaxed. A bit of sperm leaks out of the penis even before ejaculation. Also, if a  man ejaculates close to the outside of the vagina, the sperm can swim up the vagina, resulting in conception.

Thus, according to study, withdrawal is not recommended as a form of birth control, especially for males who are sexually inexperienced.

Myth 4: Oral sex is safe

Another misconception on the list is that oral sex does not put people at risk of sexually transmitted diseases. Though the possibility of contracting HIV through a fellatio is still under debate, there is still risk of catching other STDs, even if the male does not ejaculate in your mouth.

Organisms such as chlamydia and gonorrhea are present in the pre-ejaculate that will cause infections. There is risk of a herpes infection as well as syphilis.

Myth 5: You can’t get pregnant if you aren’t ovulating

As regards to thoughts that women can’t get pregnant if they aren’t ovulating, the expert said that it was not true. A normal menstrual cycle is of 28 days, however some women experience irregular cycles. The first day of your cycle is the first day of your period. You produce an egg on day 14 of a 28 day cycle.

A sperm can live for two days inside you. So theoretically, you can have safe sex till day nine of your cycle. For this method to be effective, you have to have very regular cycles. Periods can be irregular due to various physiological as well as psychological
causes.

Myth 6: Contraceptives protect against STDs

Study debunked the myth that contraceptive pills protects against STDs. The expert said that such pills provide protection only from pregnancy, adding that it’s the condom that can protect against STDs when sexually active.

I would love you to leave me a comment and let me hear your opinion. If you’ve got any thoughts, comments or suggestions for things we could add, leave a comment.

10 SpoilSport Lines Which Should be Avoided on Bed

People often read about how to build the mood with their partners for sex. There are many lines which can certainly kill all the joy and could play spoil sport. People don’t realize that apart from annoying bedroom habits, extreme intimate gestures, wrong sexual positions, disliked physical attributes; there are certain unintentional things, which, if said at the wrong time, can act as libido killers. It’s evident that while having sex, there are several things on a couple’s mind but the issue creeps up when couples let these things come in way of those most cherished moments and thus end up killing the passion.

It is rightly said that sex is the art of love and it must be done in the most enjoyable and most satisfying manner. To enjoy this intimate and private activity, couples shall let go of all their apprehensions, fears and insecurities. But unfortunately, the looming anxieties find their ways into our bedroom lives.

Sex is to be enjoyed in the present and if any partner thinks about impending things from past or future, it would act as disruption. Saying anything outside your bedroom conversations will become a deviation. Your partner might feel offended and unloved. Understand the fact that your partner will not accept anything outside your intimacy, to enter your isolated sexual moments, and hence such intrusion is highly opposed.

Top 10 Spoil Sport lines that couples must avoid saying in bed:

Are you enjoying?
It’s good to be communicative with your partner about things that are enjoyed or disliked in bed but that doesn’t mean you start interrupting in between the act thus killing the heating passion. Asking your partner again and again to evaluate your performance and speak out their pleasure level might just leave them irked and it is a symptom of performance anxiety where you are more concerned about how the act is progressing and less focused on the pleasure quotient. You maybe either too probing whether your partner is enjoying or too anxious whether you’re able to give satisfactory amount of pleasure.

Are you through darling?
Again, this is a repetitive mistake that most couples would make in bed. Sex is something you should enjoy not obligate, so treat it like a necessity of life not a duty that has to be fulfilled each time you get intimate. If you keep interrogating your partner on whether they’re through with the act might sound like you’re no more interested in the act and waiting for it to get over soon. It also makes your partner feels apprehensive if the sexual act is becoming a burden on you, so try and avoid being too inquisitive rather let your partner also enjoy the act as much as you.

Shall we turn off the lights?
Many a times, a partner would suddenly disrupt in between a steamy sex session only to ask that whether they should now turn off the lights, without realizing that it might just delay their partner’s smooth act towards the peak point. You are not making love in public anyways so it shouldn’t matter.

I think I forgot to take the pill
No matter how much a women charged up for a pleasurable night, they can’t get rid of the disturbing reminders about the contraceptive pill. Imagine your partner is about to reach the climax and you abruptly get up saying that you forgot to take the pill. Mood killer isn’t it! There are various pills available these days which you can take even after many hours of unprotected sex so don’t worry if you forgot your regular pills.

You’re far better than my ex
Try and think more about your current partner and thus leaving no space for your past relations to obstruct your sexual life. Males often find themselves in a fix where they end up comparing their present bedroom partner either with his ex or someone he fantasizes about, without realizing what harm it can do to his relation. Comparison can sometimes be the most offensive gesture you can show to your partner and if that happens in the bed, tables can really turn around. While in bed, couples shall think of their quality time meant for uninterrupted comfort. Nothing said is unintentional, it comes only because it’s there somewhere in your mind. No wife or girlfriend would accept his man thinking about another woman and moreover expressing it while making love.

You must hit the gym soon
Apart from the bedroom anxieties, there are several things that keep hovering couples’ mind and act as wreckers in their sexual life. It’s good to comment your partner about their physical attributes but there has to be a right tie for it. Pointing your wife’s weight gain and suggesting her to hit the gym next morning can be good but doing this while having sex can act as the deadliest wrecker. Such expressions reflect your sheer concern or disliking towards your partner’s body issues, which ideally shouldn’t cause a trouble in your sexual life. Many individuals are particular about their partner’s weight, body hair, bulging belly etc and commenting on these attributes while having sex may make your partner feel snubbed. It also shows how unenthusiastically you’re involved in the act of love and instead concentrating on other areas.

Office was pretty hectic today
When boardroom stress descends to the bedroom, it is sure to cause doldrums in sexual pleasure. While the man would always have office dilemmas on his mind, but the issue comes in when he unexpectedly expresses it out while having sex and pollutes the romantic mood. Don’t let your boardroom stress slips to your bedroom.

What’s in breakfast tomorrow?
Be it men or women intending to discuss the breakfast menu in bed, it will only irritate the other partner, who was expecting some happy sex moments sans routine conversations. Expressing these subconscious thoughts suggests that either you’re too hungry for food at the moment or you’re least interested in the act and are planning for the next day.

How are kids doing in school?
Though this is a very petty area on which a couple can actually end up fighting or killing their pleasure but if this is the case, it has to be understood that your partner needs undivided attention in bed. Even talking of kids, at a time which is meant for pleasure, can make them feel abandoned. So, try and talk out these things over dinner or a phone cal during the day but reserve the bedroom moments exclusively for your partner.

Have you paid the pending bills?
Men are always worried about these impending household expenses but they fail to prioritize their concerns. Asking or mentioning such things while having sex would of course be a turn off for the other partner, so the only way to deal with it could be a prolonged foreplay so that you only concentrate on the pleasure act and leave all other tensions outside the bedroom. Some partners do have a tendency to get full report of monthly household expenses but such things can be well discussed at dinner table, why let them invade your comfort moments and disrupt the bedroom life.

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Don’t Let Your Baby Ruin Your Sex Life

Many women complain at not knowing what ‘sex life’ means post birth. Reason – The baby. A child can be heavy duty work, especially right after birth with compulsive breastfeeding, no sleep, poop cleaning, crying and care being taken round the clock. Not only mothers but even fathers who stay awake the nights rocking the baby hardly find the energy; forget the time to have sex.

Parent’s are known for sacrificing their sex life soon after the delivery and transfer to parenting mode which is great. But, there are few things which can help you to save your sex life and don’t let the baby ruin your sex life.

If so is the case, we hope these top 10 tips help you get somewhere interesting.

Wait till 6 to 8 weeks to have sex
Well, this may curtail sex in the starting post birth but trust us the beginning is where the child needs most amount of attention and also the mother with bleeding and swelling can do without for a while. The more rest she takes, whatever she manages around this time is much needed.

Sleep when the baby sleeps
This is practiced by most women as it is an ideal solution to catch 40 winks. Post birth, we suggest if you are thinking of working immediately, don’t, it is going to wear you down. If you sleep with the baby in intervals, you will be able to refresh your sleep for when your partner comes home. If the baby goes to bed early enough in the evening, you’ve got yourself some quality time.

If you don’t get time, do with quickies
You’re not going to be able to do foreplay for long or enough half a days in bed. You’ve got baby to please! If you can’t go the whole way, indulge in other ways of satisfying yourselves. Get inventive, use the table, the kitchen, the carpet any part of your house for quickies to make it even more exciting.

Ask your parents/ sibling to come over or hire a nanny
This is a given. You can’t be by the baby all the time, sooner or later your partner or you yourself are going to resent it. Call over your parents for their grandparent duties or your sibling or a married friend to look after the baby for an evening once you’ve put him/her to bed.
A nanny today is a practical option if you work from home, manage a small business or want some time to yourself. Dress yourself up, feel good and go out on a date with your boyfriend or husband like you used to before.

Try a mini vacation
If you feel your baby can cope with grand parents or a sibling and has grown up, extend your one night date to a mini vacation. You will need to feel like yourself once again and you and your partner both deserve it.

Schedule your sex time
When we say this, we mean it literally. Plan your time to have sex. When the baby sleeps or it’s been looked after, take your time enjoying some carnal pleasures. Plan something enjoyable for the evening once your partner’s back and your baby’s asleep. Why not role-play?

Go for drive
If you feel the need to get away, try going on a drive. You may just want to bunk on the back like teenagers and enjoy a little…ahem…something.

Avoid working too hard
Keep it minimal activity around the house. The baby is enough work. For anything that requires your attention call a pro or a friend. Handling the baby and working is going to lead to the bed no sooner than later every night…just for sleep.

Keep it exciting
Having a baby and taking care of him/her does not really say you can’t do it like before. Try what you haven’t tried, or do what you have been waiting for. Having a baby should hardly be a reason to draw you apart.

Use Lubrication if necessary
With quickies and the baby calling for attention, foreplay can be compromised. Hence, use lubrication to help you along and make things easy. You don’t want to an upset down there or it’ll only make things more work.

Don’t let your baby ruin your sex life. Please leave me a comment and let me know how you manage to save your sex life still being a good parent.

What to Do When Porn Destabilize Your Relationship

Have you just found your boyfriend watching porn or has huge collection or porn? To many women this might come as a shock but is watching porn a bad thing? Are you saying that he is less interested in the bedroom with you and more interested in porn?

Well that would be putting it a different way then. There a number of reasons why your partner might want to watch porn but nothing too personal. Have you ever thought of sitting with him and watching to too? We are not suggesting you make it routine thing like porn with popcorn but have you ever talked about your fantasies and role plays you might want to do.

Vanilla sex i.e. plain sex most of times is to be blamed for a man cheating. In this case, it’s a good thing it’s just with porn. Vanilla sex translates to plain sex without any experimentation all the time which can get boring.  Your boyfriend might be watching porn as he likes variety or maybe you are not vocal enough and he likes a woman to be vocal or he like the thought of experimenting but since you guys have not spoken about it, he watches that kind of porn to satisfy himself.

Watching porn together can let you know what he likes, what you may like and you can adopt it yourself in the bedroom. If you feel strongly about his watching porn and it upsets you, do tell him by all means. But think about his watching it secretly and how would that make you feel? Rather than take it badly, to minimize porn and maximize action in the bedroom, adapt various experimentation roles together and have fun with it. If porn does your sex life a favor, what’s the harm?

Porn to some women is a vile thing and should not be watched. How bout we tell you that it also represents what you do not want to do but we do not mean do everything to please your boyfriend. Except the fact that vanilla sex alone cannot last long and it is human tendency to want variety. It is a good thing to want variety of bedroom with one person rather than otherwise seek variety in partners.

An open conversation about porn and why he watches and ask him what he likes will make him feel like you too are interested in going further than just vanilla sex and can spice up the bedroom.  Admit if you have not watches porn ever or what you don’t like about it. Let him be your guide what do you know there might be something you may want to try. Too much of porn which steals from your bed is bad. Porn adding to your bedroom activity is only a blessing.

I would love to hear your ideas and experiences of minimizing porn and maximizing action in the bedroom. Please leave me a comment and let me know.